there is a terribly written opinion piece in the NZ Herald today, in which a mother bags all of us who choose to breast feed. Its a bloody offensive piece in so many ways, she says that breastfeeding is why women who are unhappy with their saggy boobs have to get implants... wtf, that's insane, choosing to formula feed so you don't get saggy boobs seems rather selfish, I have bottle fed, and I have breastfed, the boobs were getting saggy before I started feeding, loosing weight, gaining weight are bigger factors for saggy boobs that breastfeeding.
The rest of the article was just as bad, sleeping your baby on its back is not to be done because of flat heads? wow so the aesthetic of babies head shape is more important than the risk of SIDS, but she justifies this statement by saying shes upper class and it won't happen to her baby...
I was totally gobsmacked by the arrogance of this woman, shes so totally wrong on so many counts and saying that she knows best because shes rich just takes the cake. Personally I will keep getting my advice on parenting from WHO, Plunket, Health professionals etc, they do know what they are talking about.
and then there is this part
"Now I understand that for many parents, especially where education levels are low and daily life so tough and frazzled, the notion of a book to record details of the infant's every sleep seems indulgent and precious. And we've all read about methamphetamine-fuelled households filled with multiple 'lifestyle beneficiaries' whose only success is to fail to supply the necessities of life to those tiny babies unfortunate enough to live with them. Obviously sterilising bottles and correctly preparing formula would be beyond many of these people - as would the art of muslin-wrapping. So it's quite understandable that official guidelines should serve as a safety net for the offspring of our most disenfranchised parents, and as an ethical society we wouldn't want it any other way."
totally condescending and not necessary at all, I found the whole article patronising, it belittled the work that Mums do, and it made her come across as a prize bitch who was so selfish that she didn't even try breastfeeding cos she didn't want to have to get implants. I have many friends who bottle feed their children, they do it because for many reasons breastfeeding just didn't work for them. Not one of them did it because of concern about saggy boobs, did she have an elective c section because she was concerned about a saggy vagina? I mean pushing a baby out is surely going to stuff you vagina and make sex less pleasurable because you aren't tight anymore.... And yes I am now being bitchy and judgemental too, (C sections are not nice, and are horrible to recover from and nothing to be joked at either.)
Where do people get off on judging choices that we make? I am educated, and I used that education to make the best choices I can for my children, but I don't offend nearly every Mother I know by making statements like the ones in that article.
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Still hoping the article is a piss-take. It is offensive on so many levels! I seriously feel like I've been called poorly educated and poor because I breastfeed and back slept my youngest.
I feel the same, I happily back sleep my babies, and breastfeed them, I have bottle fed too, and wasnt so dumb that I couldnt sterilise the bottles.. its such a patronising piece of writing on so many levels
I don't think its a piss-take, her other article (there were only two in the 'archive') was about the royal wedding and while wasn't patronising it was the same voice.
I guess she wasn't patronising about the wedding cause she believes those people are above her on the food chain and you can only be a bitch to lose lower down the food chain.
ARGH, save me from people like this!
very offensive. why do these people get their rubbish published?
and just an aside, my friends who didnt breast feed still got saggy breasts! its called gravity....but maybe rich people dont get that!!!
ignorance!! save me too!
I think it is a terrible indictment on the Herald that they chose to publish something so awful. It also seems to me that in her rush to tell us how very clever she is, she reveals through her ridiculous interpretation of the benefits of breastfeeding, her own considerable intellectual limitations.
The boob thing - pregnancy alone will do a (un)fair bit of stretching.
Having read this interview from House and Garden, I am going with not a piss take. http://www.nzhouseandgarden.co.nz/Articles/anartisticeye.asp
I read one of her other opinion pieces and its not a piss take, shes for real. gravity and pregnancy have a pretty big impact on breasts,
There was a study done in the UK about vagina tightness and the difference between c-sections and vaginal delivery, it found only a miniscule difference, its not delivery that stretches everything, its the whole pregnancy.
me thinks this women is just terrible though and needs to think more before opening her uneducated mouth
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